Category: Relationships

Have you turned on the LIGHTS?

 

 

 

As I sat in the dark room feeling the anguish and pain of my mother’s death, guilt encircled me. Maybe if I had gotten up at 2:00 AM TO GIVE HER THE MORPHINE to alleviate her cancerous pain? Instead, I had overslept, awakening at 3:00 AM and then rushed to her bedside to find her gone. Where had she disappeared to? Surely, her body was still there warm and alive when I kissed her goodnight and lay down earlier that evening. How could I cope? A deep pain traveled through my stomach, and heart coming to rest in my body. It was as if I had been hit with a giant sledgehammer. Then in the silence I remembered the one who always pulled me through the pain,the challenges and abuse that I had experienced in my childhood…GOD. And I silently repeated the words, “When I sit in darkness the LORD shall be a light unto me. (Micah 7:8) and my lips slowly mouthed the words. “Thank you, dear LORD for your precious light. Keep my vision clear that I may travel on your lighted pathway”. It takes courage to follow the Light of Christ our Savior especially now at this time on this earth and in these days. There are so many that are turning off to GOD, the bible, and Jesus to follow their own ways. Yes, they know best. After all, my friend had recently remarked, “I am Spiritual.” I don’t need GOD! I am perfectly capable of taking care of MYSELF!

What does that mean? I had observed that her life was full of chaos. She had often called me asking for solace. At some point in our lives we will all face fearful situations and loss and death, and to me those fears are so much easier to face if we believe in GOD. There is a GOD who loves us and desires for us to face our fears with courage. If God is in the equation, our courage is strengthened. This quality of mind and spirit enables us to meet danger and life’s challenges with fearlessness, calmness and firmness.” God has not given us a spirit of fear but power, love and a sound mind. His promise empowers us. “I will be with you, I will not fail you or forsake you. (V:15 Joshua). The light switched on. The coroner had arrived. “Is this your mom? He exclaimed. I was no longer in darkness. I realized because my mother was a believer and trusted in GOD she was not there. She was now immediately present with GOD. And although her body remained on earth, she was not there. For us too, when we die our bodies will remain on earth but our souls can and will be with GOD. If we choose to believe and follow his light. I now felt peaceful! Then a thought pierced my mind. What about those that don’t believe and trust? What about my “spiritual friend? I then prayed that she would be able to receive GOD’S precious light in her life and choose to travel on that lighted pathway. And too, my prayers go out for those reading these words. HAVE YOU TURNED ON THE LIGHT? Don’t sit in darkness choose to flick on the switch and follow the positive light of our LORD AND SAVIOR! IT WORKS!

 

What does it means to have FUZZY FRIENDS?

WHAT DOES IT MEANS TO HAVE FUZZY FRIENDS?

FUZZY FRIENDS are usually our pets. They consist of rabbits,gerbils, doggies & kittens. If we train and love them, they become special creatures in our lives. They love us unconditionally. That means if we fail to measure up or fit into the traditional boxes that society tries to put us in, our pets will still be waiting for us at the door when we come home. After a hard stressful day’s work, we can drop our problems as we are greeted and we respond by showing affection, talking and petting them and they always return the favor. They never tell us we are too fat, skinny or stupid or unworthy. A bunny responds with kisses from a small wet nose. A kitten reacts with a seductive purr as she waltzes between our ankles and rubs against our pants leg. The dog runs in circles and barks delightfully now that you have arrived home.

I never realized how much nature’s animals could fill a void in ones life until I got my first pet dog. I had been frequently told by an angry abusive stepfather, “we don’t want any animals here.” That was usually after I had picked up a stray dog and cared for it and upon returning from school found it missing. When I questioned my stepfather, he replied, “the owner wanted his dog back, what could I do?” I knew he was lying.

At twenty years old a fiancée bought me a diamond wristwatch and laughed when I exclaimed I wanted a dog instead, “you’ve got to be kidding” Luckily he traded the watch in for a cute little chocolate poodle. I add a word of caution here, because animals should be a part of a family and deciding to have one is a big decision. Too many animals have been abandoned and hurt in our current society. I thought I was so careful with my dog, but the only evening I let him off leash he ran across the street. I stood in horror at the corner seeing the approaching car and knowing I was helpless. There was only one car that went down the street that solemn night and it was the one that hit him. I heard the car full of teenagers laugh as they drove off into the sad awesome darkness. Luckily my dog was killed instantly. But I soon realized how I had taken him for granted. I missed the comfort, the affection the unconditional love that he had showered upon me for only two short years.

Even if we don’t have fuzzy friends, human friends are important too. We need to cherish them and not take them for granted. Real human friendships are hard to find and they don’t always love you unconditionally. But I submit to you that GOD is your true friend. You can have a relationship with him. He loves you! His bible verses comfort you and he does love you unconditionally. Don’t take GOD for granted by taking him off the shelve only when you sense a crisis. He is waiting at the door when you come home from work. He wants your love and prayers too! Remember FUZZY FRIENDS and human friends are important. But only one true friend will be there with you for all time and eternity. MAKE GOD YOUR FRIEND TODAY!

Fuzzy Friends book on Amazon.com

Fuzzy Friends book on LuLu.com

 

 

WHEN THE MARRIAGE BUBBLE BURSTS

MARRIAGE-WHEN THE BUBBLE BURSTS    What is the truth about marriage? There isn’t a perfect marriage and therefore, people usually walk away when fantasy clashes with reality and it always does. The bible says “you will know the truth and the truth will set you free.” And not free from Marriage but giving you more freedom to love for the right reasons. Pastor Joel Pagett says, “it’s called the LOVE BUG.” It bites us when we think it is the right person, time and place. We are bitten and think we will live happily ever after with that person.” Consequently, the LOVE BUG FLIES OFF when we are faced with crisis and minor problems. Because we confuse Romance with true Love, when the bug flies off we feel we need to move on too. Needless to say, if two people stand together in love through the challenges the bond can again blossom and become stronger. Unselfish love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love isn’t always me first. Love doesn’t fly off the handle, doesn’t keep score, always looks for the best, but never looks back. So what do people usually do when the bubble bursts? Following are five examples some not so good. You be the judge of what you think is the most beneficial. AND PLEASE BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF!

  1. WE pressure our mate, manipulate and blame them for our displeasures.
  2. Start searching for the right one!
  3. Realize lasting happiness can be found in only one person GOD!
  4. CHANGE our lives and become the right person and become more GOD-LIKE!
  5. LOOK TO GOD for our joy and not to others.

I pray that you will find the answer in your mind and let GOD into your HEART. When you have a relationship with GOD, then HELP is on the way. Be patient and put your trust in him. Our relationships are important. You are IMPORTANT. CHOOSE GOD, CHOOSE LOVE! REMEMBER, “HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU.”