LOVE/SOUL MATES
Recently the public who loves to come up with new ideas or rework old ones came up with the magic words SOUL MATE. I am seeing it everywhere. If you are to fall in love, it must be with your SOUL MATE and that is what drives you to create a loving relationship or a marriage. If he or she is not your SOUL MATE then your relationship is doomed. I have heard people express the reasons for leaving a long marriage or relationship as “WELL THEY JUST WERE NOT MY SOUL MATE.” What does that mean? Does it mean they must delete their long-term relationship in search for the one and only that will make them complete. Did our parents or grandparents stay in long relationships even if they weren’t with a SOUL MATE??? And does this generation really know what the definition of SOUL MATE IS???There are really several definitions and I guess one can choose to form their own opinion and based on that they can conclude what to look for in their perfect relationship. But is this just a romantic notion promoted in movies and T.V.????
According to Webster’s Dictionary SOULMATE means a person who has deep affinity to another. Friendship, love, sex, compatibility and TRUST. Trust being a very essential component. The Religious definition of a soul is a material force within a human being thought to give the body energy, life and power. The soul then is described as immortal, spirit vitality or a sign of a person’s psyche. Also, it can be a person’s essence, emotion, or core. Most people think it is a harmonious, blissful, and symbiotic union. BUT a SOUL MATE UNION can be rough, because after all people are human and they can behave in human and inhuman ways. According to recent articles, a SOUL MATE is not someone who appears on ones perfect person check list and a lot of times physical appearance is not part of the equation. There are various sites you can go to that will give you terms and conditions and even a checklist of what a SOUL MATE RELATIONSHIP can be. However I am going to list ten that I think are important.
You feel their thinking and their pain
You know and accept their flaws
You have the same values, ethics, goals and want the same results
You can really communicate (meaning talking and listening)
You can respect their differences and opinions
You don’t scream, call names or curse at your partner
You don’t hurt each other
You are giving and generous
You can apologize
You can stick with them through the hard times
Also, it is important to note that often one partner is introverted and one is extroverted and that one can be social and one not social. Sometimes you can be like a puzzle piece that sometimes doesn’t fit until adjusted. Often you are attracted to one another to complete the missing pieces. But most importantly hugs are given several times a day and warmth is a component of your hearts. Actually these components seem like they could be available in any good relationship.
According to the religious beliefs even before you were born your spiritual half has been determined and each soul has a perfect match. True spiritual SOUL MATE is the one who is intended to help you complete yourself. A person cannot complete his mission alone. Someone is there to help them become a better person. And when one tries to help another on that journey it cannot always be blissful as some determine the perfect SOUL MATE relationship to be.
As ECCLESIASTES says, “TWO are better than one because they have a good reward for their hard work for if one should fall the other can raise his/her partner up, but how will it be if one falls and there is not another to raise him up” Love and relationships are important! Being honest sincere and committed helps you to see a better vision of yourself. You have to push beyond your comfort zone and be brave enough to have open eyes and an open heart. A relationship with God can be just as important and can enhance your life.
I wish for you, a loving caring relationship with a special person and a loving caring relationship with GOD.
IS IT REALLY A SOUL MATE THAT YOU NEED OR JUST TO BE LOVED?? REMEMBER GOD LOVES YOU…. UNCONDITIONALLY…..TRUST HIM!
